First and foremost, I’m not going to debate who should pay on dates.Women want it both ways nowadays which is ridiculous as is all women logic.They want to be independent until the check comes then they want a man to take the charge…literally. This was a free range speech I gave for gentlemen who pay for dates. Why? Cause they’re gentlemen. Now without further ado, lets get into it.
One of the worst feelings you can ever have is feeling like you’ve been used. You put yourself out there and got taken advantage of. It sucks, especially when you actually invested a lot into it. When you’re single,dating,and want to make a good impression on a first date we tend to pull out all the stops. We buy new clothes,try to pick the perfect restaurant, and nice activities for after dinner so you can create the perfect night and you do.Then it happens, while you were patting yourself on the back for pulling off the greatest first date you ever created and plotting the perfect follow up date, you don’t even realize your text aren’t being replied to, your phone calls aren’t being answered, you’re voice mails aren’t being returned, and your comment on her instagram selfie got ignored. When you finally do get in contact it’s either cause she wants you to take her on another nice date or she’s just tired of ignoring all your attempts to connect with her so she gives you some reason why you and her isn’t going to work out. All you can think about is when did she decide that this wasn’t going to work out? Before or after she knocked back the three Patron’ margaritas and ordered the surf n turf with extra surf that she ended up taking home? Before or after you took her to the Kevin Hart show? Don’t stress yourself trying to figure out why someone doesn’t like you, it’s unhealthy and you’ll probably never know. What you do know is that you just sponsored an extravagant night for someone that you hoped would be in your life that you may never interact with again. That’s a horrible return on investment, you just flushed money down the toilet. You took a big risk and it didn’t work out. That’s life, it happens like that sometimes. Now let me show you how to not make it happen.
See the problem is that the dating spectrum has been completely thrown out of wack due to high levels of competition. Centuries on top of centuries of men trying to one up each other for women has gotten us to this point,leading off with extravagance. We’re starting at the ass end of the spectrum, we should be saving those types of dates for the long terms and committeds. Wives should be getting extravagant dates, fiances too I guess, not some chick you just met and want to impress that hasn’t done anything to deserve some extravagant outing from you. Here’s what the chick you just met deserves, coffee or ice cream. Why coffee or ice cream? Easy,they’re both simple,quick,and most important of all,inexpensive. You meet a woman for alcoholic drinks and she’ll be three Long Island Ice Teas in before she gives you some reason why she’s not going to have sex with you and if she reaches for the tab its so she can instagram it after you already paid it to show her friends how she’s living. No chick is drinking three cups of coffee and if they did it would still cost less than one alcoholic drink. Same goes for ice cream,that chick who wanted to get you for the surf n turf with extra surf is not running through more than two bowls of ice cream. When you take a woman out for coffee or ice cream you also cut out all the excess time of a date. No waiting for a table or food to be prepared or flagging down a waiter for the check, just in and out if need be. With all the extra out of the way you can actually focus on getting to know what your date is about mentally. No plate of food to hide behind,no waiter interrupting every five minutes,just conversation. One thing the coffee and ice cream date also does is take the edge off most people and relieves some of the tension and anxiety that traditional first dates have. It creates a more relaxed environment to just hang out and talk,isn’t that what a date supposed to be about?
The possibilities of the coffee or ice cream date are endless. You can decide if she’s someone you would want to do more with or just go your separate ways. Even if you two go your separate ways and you never see her again, the damage to your finances is a cup of coffee or a bowl of ice cream. Way better investment than a three course meal at a nice restaurant. Another great thing about this kind of date is that it will also help you weed out who’s worthy and who’s not worthy of being taken out. I’ve tried to use this date on multiple women and a ridiculously high number said yes to going out but turned around and said no or backed out once they found out the choice was either coffee or ice cream. One even told me that it’s a cheap date and she’s not a cheap date kind of girl.Could you imagine if I did end up doing something more expensive with her only to find out she’s ungrateful and egotistical as she stuffs her face full of jumbo shrimp on my dime? I’d be disgusted. I wouldn’t want to have dealings with a chick that thinks she’s too good for a coffee or ice cream date and apparently no one else does either cause that girl is still single,hoping for that white knight to come. How people react to things lets you know a lot about them and a woman’s reaction to this kind of date will let you know a lot. So before you go sponsoring meals fit for a queen and getting yourself saved as “free food” in a bunch of ladies phones,dial it back to the beginning of the dating spectrum and start simple. Save that money for when you do connect with someone who’s done something to deserve you pulling out all the stops.
Flychologist out.
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